The Luxury of being Yourself

The journey towards a life of happiness seems to evade many people where they find themselves needing to compromise between what pleases them due the obstructing belief that we can’t have it all. What does having it all even mean? Does it mean having everything I need to be truly happy or has it become a belief of trying to reach the impossible that can never be reached and thus holds us locked in an endless attempt to reach a goal that doesn’t exist but keeps us busy working to get there under the illusion that only by reaching that goal I will be happy. And since it is impossible to reach an illusion, we slide into the surrender of a life of unhappiness. Since I can’t have it all, where having it all is an illusionary concept of reaching an impossible goal, I settle and learn to be happy with less. And suddenly being happy seems to have become a value that needs to be learned, instead of a natural state of well-being.

And what is even more disturbing is that many find themselves feeling guilty or embarrassed if unable to feel happy in their lives. As if they are somehow failing in their quest for happiness because unable to learn to settle for less.

What if unhappiness was a red alarm trying to alert us that something in our lives is not working? That maybe the choices we are taking are not truly fulfilling us? That maybe I don’t want to settle for less? That maybe inside of me there is something telling me there is more to life and I have been told a lie that I cannot have more?

What is more?

Has more become the equivalent of not knowing how to be happy with less and thus bordering with the belief of being spoiled? What if more means a life filled with more things and people that make you feel good? What if more means you want to feel more? Laugh more? Have more moments of joy and pleasure? Does that make you spoiled? No!! That makes you human. A human being feeling their inner reality, feeling your soul calling for what you appreciate in life. Calling for what makes you feel good. Calling for a life that makes you feel at home with yourself – living a life that reflects your inner values and principles.

And finally: what is happiness? It is the state of feeling free to be yourself without the fear of judgement. When being yourself means living a life that fulfils you and allows you to experience your inner beauty in the physical world. A balance between the opposites where you can feel without conditionings, express your feelings and learn to support them in your best interest, where best interest means a balanced way of supporting your well-being.

And yet, somehow for many, it has become a true luxury to be oneself in this world where we are constantly told what to like, what we need, how we should behave, what we should have, what we should desire, and so on the list is infinite. And what if for a moment we allowed ourselves just to be and breathe and observe while asking ourselves: who am I truly? And even if the answer might take some time to become clear, if there is a quest that we should all try to endeavour ourselves towards, is the pursuit of our authenticity. I call it pursuit because many seem to have lost themselves in the expectations of others or even their own expectations guided by very ambitious brains thinking to know who someone should be without truly allowing the person to be who they actually are.

The power of your authenticity will set you free! Because all you really need to be happy is to be yourself.

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Lien Simcic

Holistic Counselor and Soulologist, Educational Pedagogical Coach and Kundalini Bodywork Practitioner, based in Switzerland and also working in Monaco. 

As a counselor Lien has been helping people find and live their life purposes by reconnecting themselves with their inner truths, learning how to balance their inner feminine and inner masculine energies to become co-creators of the lives they dream and desire. Since June 2024, together with her business partner Angelika Khon (Life & Business Coach), they have started collaborating with the Yacht Club de Monaco by launching the first Wellness Conference in collaboration also with Anastasia Loginova (Cultural Producer, Curator & Artist). More projects ahead with the Yacht Club in 2025.

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